After a weeks worth of fighting the families “encouragement” to get to know each other James’ and Malia’s happened upon a first “date” (though they would never have admitted it then!) They went to James’ church the Sunday after the wedding and to Aiberto’s for California burritos after. They talked about music and and Malia invited James to the Desperation Conference in Colorado Springs. James’ dad, Dave, helped get him to Colorado for it. They got to spend a few days getting to know each other and seeing each other’s heart for God. The long distance friendship had begun. James faithfully called Malia every week for 8 months.